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August 11, 2007

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Jeremy Wells

Your article is the "tip of the iceberg" of a huge question that needs exposure and thought. That is, our consciousness of our own human nature is constantly being molded to maximize profitability.

The most obvious effect of capitalism on men, more noticeable in the last 30 years in the U.S., is the inability of men to make a serious "living wage." This is especially true if the man is not a college graduate, is from a working class family without "connections," etc. and is trying to raise a family with one or two children.

All your time and energy is spent trying to work overtime, extra jobs, and sacrificing vacations for the extra money. The time necessary to maintain relationships with the spouse and children disappears as the years go by.

It is not just "difficult" to survive economically. For many it is impossible to make "ends meet". Credit card debt piles up and is ultimately impossible to pay off.

Unresolveable economic stress causes inevitable arguments and finally divorce. Remarriage is out of the question as long as economic conditions remain unchanged.

Bill

Susan,

Thank you for pointing out the politics of domestic violence. It is difficult to separate out the economics of domestic violence from the politics but you have managed to do that as well.

It is sexist to presume that only women are victims of domestic violence. I am an attorney who has handled cases of gay "DV" as well.

Domestic violence laws cut both ways. Any law can create victims as well as saving them. DV laws are often used as a weapon in Family Law Court for gaining an advantage often not justified by the facts alone.

Thank you for seeing this truth and having the courage to voice it. Many families are broken up by the very laws meant to protect women, just as child molestation and rape laws have been used for political purposes. Truth is never black-and-white.

Examine the evidence and the motivations, as well as the interest of the lawyers or social workers involved. Only then does the system approach fairness to the individuals and the family as a whole.

David Holmes

After years of being falsely arrested for domestic violence by a bipolar pyschotic alcholic women who was always believed by the police I finally left her. I personally know of two other women who play the law this way.

Women have been taught to call the cops for revenge, out of anger, and a lot of reasons that have nothing to do with abuse. Something has to change, it's so damn unfair.

She more than once had me locked up so she could be with her boyfriend. I absolutely don't trust women.

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